So How Do You Get A Book Published?

December 5th, 2011 → 11:20 pm @

That’s probably the most frequent single question that people ask.  So many of us are poised to write, but hesitate because of the uncertainty of being stuck with a manuscript that no one will publish. The true diehards just go ahead and write. If they get published – great – but what happens when/if they don’t?

I can’t pretend to be one of those brave souls. I talked about writing a book for years, and none of the options appealed to me at all. I could invest all of the time, energy and passion it would take to create my masterpiece, and then spend a lot more time, energy and passion – not to mention money – in shopping it around and trying to get it published. I would bravely struggle to keep my hopes up as rejection after rejection flooded my mailbox and broke my resolve.

From what I’m told, shopping your manuscript around for an agent isn’t really much better. And, if you do find an agent to represent you there’s still no guarantee that they’ll be able to interest a publisher. I have known authors who were elated at finally finding that elusive agent – only to realize a year or two later that they are not infallible – even if they’re sure your book will be easy to sell!

Then, if you do manage to get your book published, will your publisher realize all of the financial benefits of your endeavor? I have also seen authors who earned pennies per book and could barely feed themselves after publishing more than a dozen novels.

Then there’s always self-publishing. You spend your money to back yourself and then hope there’s some change left to get out there and promote yourself. Experienced authors have cautioned that the uninitiated end up with a raw unedited piece that does not present itself, or you, in the best light.

Personally, I feel very fortunate that I stumbled upon a publisher who was willing to spend the time evaluating an unknown such as myself. My publisher took the time to help me polish my creation until it was ready for prime time; and the final product was something that could make us both proud.

My publisher has been my partner and my cheerleader, not trying to greedily reap all of the profit if profit is to be made. Everybody should have the benefit of a publisher like mine.

Let me know if you’d like to meet my publisher. I am confident they will be willing to review your work and give you an honest assessment. If they decide to take your manuscript on you will learn an enormous amount and benefit from their knowledge and connections.

Why am I making this offer? I’m too new to worry about being completely inundated with everyone trying to get to me – maybe someday. I, myself, have wondered if I would ever get the chance to share my musings with the world – and now I know that it feels incredible. If it’s what you want, you should have a fair shot at it too. And no, I’m not getting any kickbacks.





Thank you Renee Lincoln

November 21st, 2011 → 5:04 pm @

Renee Lincoln made the first official purchase of Is It Still Murder, Even If She Was A Bitch? In fact she made the first three purchases!

Thank you, Renee, your support is appreciated more than you can know!

And thanks to the rest of you who jumped into and purchased as well! You’ve made this menopausal woman very happy!


Why would anyone write about a menopausal woman?

November 16th, 2011 → 10:04 pm @

In May of 2009 my business partner approached me with an idea. “Women are always coming to you and asking for help in navigating information about menopause,” she said, “you need to start blogging about menopause because you can make it approachable and even funny.”

I was flattered; doubtful, but flattered, nonetheless. Together we created which started a journey of sharing my most private experiences relating to menopause, and that time of life, with women looking for answers, and hope.

Blogging on menopause forced me to think about it more deeply and more critically than I had before. When began to republish Menologues my audience increased substantially – and so did the interaction with menopausal women. Up until that point people would reach out to thank me, but it was mostly me talking about me.

With the increase in interaction, I began to learn, first hand, of the confusion and despair that went unchecked as women stumbled their way through menopause – it wasn’t just me. In one of my first posts I made the following statement:

From the time that we first begin to learn what being a woman is all about we also begin to learn that, whatever else it entails, menopause signals its death.

True or not, that seemed to be the prevailing belief, and that didn’t offer much hope.

As I continued on my own journey through menopause, and met many other exceptional women along the way, I realized that the world was sadly mistaken about us. They needed to be told. But how could I, a menopausal woman, tell them that I – that we – did not fit their stereotype?

I couldn’t just tell them, but maybe there was a way to show them. Maybe there was a way to make them laugh a little and get to know a menopausal woman who does not dress like Grandma Moses, sit in a rocker on her front porch, with her hair in a bun, knitting and crocheting the day away.

Donna Leigh is a menopausal woman, but you don’t have to be menopausal to relate to her and to laugh either at or with her. She could be your mother or your aunt, but she could just as easily be your co-worker and friend. She’s not every menopausal woman, but she is representative of the dynamic and vivacious qualities that exist in the majority of menopausal women today.